Episode #80 – Expert Tactics to Deal With Difficult People
Difficult people are everywhere. As a matter of fact, we all can be difficult at times.
The truth is, I’ve dealt with my fair share as I work with difficult people on a daily basis. At times, that person is my boss, and other times it’s my fellow colleagues. Other times beyond that, these people are my clients or vendors.
Unfortunately, or even fortunately, these very difficult people can be the ones we love, our family. I can’t be the only one dealing with this, am I? Based on my many conversations with other friends, it was confirmed that I wasn’t the only one.
As for the people, we cross paths with on a daily basis? Well, that is everywhere. In other words, whether it be a trip to the store or a quick trip to the gas station, it’s there. But what about the multitudes of phone calls we experience on a daily basis? Ever had someone from collections that made you feel like you owed them money directly?
To be honest, I am sure there are reasons difficult people do what they do. I just don’t have the answer as every situation is different. Therefore, what we choose to focus on makes all the difference. At the end of the day, just like any puzzle, although different, I’m sure we can create beauty. The more we learn to understand and accept, the happier we’ll be.
If there is one thing I learned, it’s to not take the actions of difficult people so personally. And that’s the power to create whatever I find fit within any event. We all have that ability.
Kill Them With Kindness
As I love to say, we are all going through life. And we all experience and react to life differently. The tools we each carry are different. Therefore, within our journey, we are all adjusting as we go with hopes of creating something worth living for.
Working with difficult people only makes you realize our individual battles. They say life is what you make it. So, if that is true, they don’t seem to be making much of it. Show them kindness. You’ll be surprised as to how effective you can be.
It’s hard for two difficult people to coexist. Therefore, one person has got to step up to the plate with their displaying of kindness. As a matter of fact, the kinder soul has more of an effect. That is where our powers lie.
Difficult People Need More Compassion
We all speak in more than one way. With that in mind, there are many ways in which we can listen to people. The question is, what do you see, hear, or feel in the presence of others. Difficult people deserve our compassion just like everyone else. As a matter of fact, they may even need it more.
What people show is what they have. What they fail to show is what they lack. Therefore, the best way to handle difficult people is by understanding what they are actually asking for. Although they don’t necessarily speak it, through their actions, you understand.
When someone comes across difficult, I try to listen to what they aren’t saying. At the end of the day, sometimes yelling is a cry for help. And sometimes anger is an absence of joy. Either way, this person is subconsciously reaching out to you for help. The question is, how will you show up.
Stay in Control so That They Feel YoU
What do you do when someone cries for help? Do we marvel at the opportunity or do we lose sight of it altogether? We all have bad days because we are all dealing with the adventures of life (Note: I say adventure so that my mind allows me to embrace it all).
In managing difficult people, we must first learn how to manage ourselves. How do we show up to such an opportunity? It’s such an honor to be able to help someone in need. Therefore, don’t waste a moment, not a second as being human.
Life is simple if only we take it for what it is. Staying present allows you to see way more than someone can give because you’re connected to the moment. Join me for Episode #81 – Effective Ways to Simplify Your Life. Life is simple…I believe. So let’s focus on skinning the fat so that we start creating a life minus the complications.